Women and Self Esteem: What do your Best Friends Say About You?
Article by Joyce Lee “Your Life Empowerment Coach”
Friendships are like a tapestry. Woven of individual strands of texture and color they show us the quality of our self esteem and self confidence. Your friends should bring out the very best in you and you should help them glow as well.
Here are 3 ways to look at the quality of your own friendships.
Women and Self Esteem: What do your Best Friends Say About You?
Have you ever taken time to reflect on what your best friends bring into your life and what you like the best about each of them?
1. Ever wonder how your best friends would describe you?If your friends gave you a testimonial on the kind of person you are, what would they say? Do you know? Do you think you would agree with their perspective? Do you think you might be surprised at what they think?
Why don’t you ask your friends to describe you? You may gain some valuable insight. They may notice undesirable qualities that you are not aware of. With this new knowledge, especially when it comes from a source of unconditional support, you can reflect upon and modify your persona. They may also notice some very wonderful qualities that you are not aware of. With this new knowledge, especially when it comes from a source of unconditional support, you can reflect upon and celebrate yourself.
2. What role do you play in your friendships?When you have been friends with someone for a while, you develop a rhythm in the relationship. You may begin to notice that each of you has different roles that you naturally fit into. Rarely will you have 2 people in the same role.
For instance: Are you generally the steady friend? The strong one? The one who fixes things? Who makes everyone laugh? The one with the constant problems? The one who analyses everything? The one with the temper? The one with the ideas?
If you are part of a group of friends, this can be a very interesting topic for discussion.
3. What are the qualities you admire the most in your friends? You choose your friends and stay connected to your friends because they fill a need that you have. I know that sounds sterile, but the concept is sound. You get something out of the relationship and so do they.
Think about each of your friends. What exactly is it that you like about each of them. What do you get out of the friendship? Have you ever talked about it? Does your friend know what you see in her?
The insights that you are able to provide your friends may give them insight and a golden opportunity to reflect and modify or celebrate and embrace their qualities as well.
Whatever you do, know that your friendships create a beautiful tapestry. Each of you a strand with texture and color and energy. This unique tapestry also contains the multitude of glorious strands from all the friendships of the friendships of the friendships.
Make sure that your friends enrich your life, and that you enrich theirs in return.
When it comes right down to it… we are all connected… We all hold universal hands. Reach out and be the most beautiful strand you can be. Let your part of the tapestry glow. Namaste
Women and Self Esteem: What do your Best Friends Say About You?